Hypocrisy is the act of persistently pretending to hold beliefs, opinions, virtues, feelings, qualities, or standards that one does not actually hold. Hypocrisy is thus a kind of lie. (I copied this definition from wikipedia)
The past few months I've been dealing with lots of hypocrites and it grates my nerves. My mom's always said that I am too blunt and have no tact. I try to work on it. But lately, I just want to scream at a few of these people.
Two major examples recently. I refrain from using these peoples real names and/or where I know them from.
Person A as we'll call her here. Declares "Everyone only deserves one shower. It doesn't matter if the new child is a different gender, if there is loads of years between the children, One shower per mother. ONE. No exceptions."
Now that she's having ANOTHER grandchild -- guess who wants to throw a SECOND shower for her daughter in law?
That my friends is HYPOCRISY.
In other words, Person A should just say Unless you are related to me, you don't get anymore than one shower. I pick and choose who the rules apply to.And that means they only apply to those folks where I get something out of it.
Footnote on this -- I, personally, did not ask for/nor want a second shower when the above was stated to me.
Person B does not want a division of folks based on fundamentals (status/place in life/type of parenting) etc. YET has specific places set up for a differentiation of such things. Oh we can't have a group set up for this -- but its okay for this.
Sorry but if the plan is no division of members -- there should be NO division of members. As in NONE at all. No special places. No special threads. Send them to other areas where such a division exists.
Personally though -- if we're all adults (supposedly) then I don't understand why a group can't be created for individuals of the same like-mindedness to discuss such characteristics together. Obviously if it doesn't apply to you, you don't agree with it, etc etc. Then SKIP it. Don't read it. Don't join said group. Not that hard.
And I'll quote the Great Eleanor Roosevelt " No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."
There I said it.
I agree completely with Mrs. Roosevelt. I also agree with your sentiment with hypocrisy. I have run into entirely to many of those in my life in the last year or so. I copied part of your blog so I could better comment.
ReplyDelete"Person B does not want a division of folks based on fundamentals (status/place in life/type of parenting) etc. " I have met a lot of people who preach this, and it seems the people who scream it the loudest are those who practice it.
"Sorry but if the plan is no division of members -- there should be NO division of members. As in NONE at all. No special places. No special threads. Send them to other areas where such a division exists."
I do not know specifically which group you speak of, but it sounds hauntingly familiar. I was in a group with a woman who wanted to put these practices into place. The group imploded over those issues and many more.
"Personally though -- if we're all adults (supposedly) then I don't understand why a group can't be created for individuals of the same like-mindedness to discuss such characteristics together. Obviously if it doesn't apply to you, you don't agree with it, etc etc. Then SKIP it. Don't read it. Don't join said group. Not that hard." In my opinion, if you join the group, and it is not a good fit, move on. Do not try to bully others into seeing your side of things. We all have different personalities, some are going to work, some are going to clash.
In the end, most people show their true colors, you just have to look close to see what they are and make sure you are not being blinded or mislead by others thoughts and opinions.